Have you wondered when your Teenage children are growing into young adults. Why, do our hormones spike and shift?
This seems so unfair doesn’t it?
Your Children are growing into adulthood. As a mum you have been looking forward to this stage, we all have, right?
BOOM the Perimenopause and the Menopause rock up to party, but not quite a good one at that a rather hell’ish one!
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When we are in the stages of early puberty, as young teenage girls we were under constant peer pressure, around this time.
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“Have you got your’s yet?”
The whole cycle then begins, as young women entering into adulthood. Women then feel under pressure to keep up. To fit in and to feel normal like all the rest.
When the period arrives and what an anti-climax that is? They just go on and on for years, you never really think about them ending. Only when you have had enough PMT to last you a lifetime!! We’ve all said it at one time “wish these periods would just stop and go away!”
Periods can be a nuisance!
But when you start going through the perimenopause and menopause, you have absolutely no idea what to expect and it certainly feels the opposite of Puberty. No one even talks about the Menopause, let alone any of the symptoms. The peer pressure is so different, in fact there is none whatsoever for women at this stage of their lives. It can feel lonely, isolating and can be debilitating.
At school, during sex education lessons we were taught that the Menopause was the end of Menstruation, period – pardon the pun! It is no wonder then as women we find ourselves confused and concerned about our wellbeing and need educating and supporting through this stage of life.
When the symptoms and feelings arrive, it comes as a shock! At first a feeling of YAhooo!!!! no more periods and definitely no more children!
After a while it starts to sink in as to what is happening, once you have been told by either a result of a blood test and Gp or through your own research. Your feelings go up and down, you become more aware of your own self, your being, self-identity and that you are now ageing. It is hard to accept at first, but once you know what is happening to your body and you know what you are dealing with it somehow helps you to cope through it. You feel Normal, but to the outside world it is not seen or accepted that way at all, this must change.
You’re no longer needed by your now Teenager/s, your body is ageing and it is now telling you by the physical reminders. You have a feeling that your youth has disappeared but the next part of your journey and the next chapter in life is just about to begin!!
If you are having symptoms that are impacting your quality of life, visit your GP or Gynaecologist for help. If you feel you need to talk to someone about your feelings, visit a counsellor who specialises in women’s health and can help you through this stage.
https://thebms.org.uk/ The British Menopause Society
https://www.rcog.org.uk/- Royal College of Obstetrician and Gynaecology
“So Mother Nature , why is the menopause shrouded in so much privacy and taboo?”
Why is it deemed a dirty word, a disease and ignored? This mindset has to to change to help and benefit other women to know and to learn what to do to help themselves to gain the treatment they need to have a better quality of life during this next chapter of their lives.
My personal theory, is that Menopause arrives to help you and your children to prepare for the next stage in life. For the Teenager who is busy enjoying life and about to head off to University and beyond, has no idea that they are leaving us Mums with an empty nest. Us mums, we are left to deal with the Menopause on top of this but make it a positive part of your life!! The second chapter is just for you! You have helped to raise your children the best you can, your Teenager will not only thank you for this but if they see you also enjoying life and having fun it will help your relationship enormously and that the Menopause is a normal part of life!!
So next time your Teenager is staring into a phone, glued to X-Box/Play Station, SnapChat or Fake Tan and Pre’ drinks if 18 or above, Take a PAUSE – Remember this is all part of the cycle!!
WE WERE YOUNG ONCE – CHERISH THIS
MAKE THE MOST OF THIS TIME – INDULGE
THINK AHEAD FOR YOURSELF AND YOUR NEXT CHAPTER! – EMPOWER AND DO IT!!! @perimenopost
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Have a super week fellow Menoteers!! keep strong and remember to pause!